What You Can Expect From Sex After Giving Birth

Giving birth is one of the most transformative experiences a woman can undergo. It changes her body, mind, and spirit in profound and lasting ways. And when it comes to sex after giving birth, there are a lot of questions and concerns that can arise.

For many women, having sex after giving birth can be daunting. There are physical changes that happen, emotional adjustments to be made, and practical considerations to take into account. However, with some understanding and preparation, it is possible to have a fulfilling and enjoyable sex life postpartum.

Here, our certified sex therapist shares what to expect from sex after giving birth, including changes to your body, emotional adjustments, and practical tips for making it work:

Body Changes

One of the most significant changes after giving birth is the physical transformation of your body. Your vagina, in particular, will undergo many changes during and after childbirth. Here are some of the most common changes you can expect:

Vaginal Dryness

After giving birth, your body's estrogen levels drop dramatically. This can lead to vaginal dryness, making sex uncomfortable or even painful. Using a water-based lubricant can help alleviate this problem.

Vaginal Looseness

During childbirth, your vaginal muscles stretch to accommodate the baby's head. This can lead to a feeling of looseness or "slackness" in the vagina. While this can be disconcerting, it's usually temporary, and Kegel exercises can help you regain your muscle tone.

Perineal Tears

If you had a vaginal birth, you might have experienced perineal tearing. This is when the skin between your vagina and anus tears during childbirth. While most tears heal on their own, some require stitches. If you have a tear, it's essential to give yourself time to heal before resuming sexual activity.

Hemorrhoids

Hemorrhoids are a common side effect of childbirth. They can be uncomfortable or even painful, making sex difficult. Using a sitz bath or applying a cold compress to the area can help alleviate the discomfort.

Emotional Adjustments

The emotional adjustments that come with becoming a new mother can be just as challenging as the physical ones. Here are some common emotional changes you may experience after giving birth:

●      Fatigue - Newborns require a lot of attention, and it can be challenging to find time and energy for sex. It's essential to be patient with yourself and your partner and to communicate openly about your needs and limitations.

●      Body Image Issues - It's common for new mothers to feel self-conscious about their bodies after giving birth. You may feel like your body is no longer your own or that it's changed in ways that make you feel less attractive. Remember that your body has done something incredible, and it's okay to take time to adjust to your new normal.

●      Hormonal Changes - Fluctuations in hormones can affect your mood and libido after giving birth. You may find that you're less interested in sex than you were before or that your desire is heightened. Either way, it's important to communicate with your partner and be patient with yourself as your body adjusts.

Practical Tips That Can Help You

Here are some practical tips for making sex work postpartum:

Be Patient

Giving yourself time to heal and adjust after giving birth is essential. Don't rush yourself into sex before you're ready, and be patient with yourself as you navigate the changes in your body and emotions.

Communicate With Your Partner

Open communication is essential when it comes to sex after giving birth. Be honest with your partner about how you're feeling, what you need, and what you're comfortable with. It's okay to set boundaries and take things slow.

Try Different Positions

Experiment with different positions to find what works best for you and your partner. Some positions may be more comfortable than others, depending on your body's changes.

Use Lubrication

If you're experiencing vaginal dryness, using a water-based lubricant can make sex more comfortable and enjoyable.

Conclusion

Sex after giving birth can be challenging, but it's also an opportunity to deepen your connection with your partner and explore new aspects of your sexuality. Remember to be patient with yourself, communicate openly with your partner, and prioritize your physical and emotional well-being. With time and effort, you can have a fulfilling and enjoyable sex life postpartum. Of course, you can always seek a certified sex therapist whenever you need professional help.

Dr. Nadia Archambault is a certified sex therapist, sexual health coach, and licensed pharmacist whose primary focus lies in women's health. She provides coaching services for individuals and couples, aiming to offer insight into their sexual lives, help them overcome obstacles, and boost self-esteem.